Some tips on overcoming jealousy (contd. from How to Overcome Jealousy)
So how did I get rid of the feeling of jealousy that had come over me?
Pray. Well, what I did was knelt down in my bedroom and prayed. I knew this emotion was a spiritual attack and prayer is a spiritual act. I confessed to God that I was jealous and then I prayed for this thing to be removed from me. Then I started praying for the person I was jealous of. Prayer is a very powerful weapon against any attack of jealousy. Because naturally you pray for people that you love or care for, so there’s something about praying for someone that is so spiritual and selfless, because when you pray for someone you do it out of a heart of love, rather than a heart of hate . Even though you don’t feel that love, it’s there and love conquers hate, love conquers jealousy all day. You will find that jealousy seeping out of you as your heart fills with love for that person. Trust me it works, I tried and it worked. Love trumps hate(no pun intended) all day, everyday.
Reject every negativity. Another thing is when you feel the attacks of jealousy, just shake it off. Refuse to take it, refuse to accept it. Just say, ‘ I refuse to take it, I refuse to accept it, I shake it off, in Jesus name.’ Refuse to accept any negativity and replace every negativity with positivity .
If anyone compares you to another person, just react in a positive manner and say something like, ‘yeah she’s doing good, I’m so happy for her, it just gives me so much hope that I’ll be just as successful some day. How about you?’ Just let them know that your future is bright and you do not have any room for their unconstructive criticism. Don’t let them project their insecurities on you. The person is probably feeling bad about themselves and jealous ( probably a narcissist) and want to project it on to you.
People who are jealous, don’t know who they are and where they’re going. If they did they would be focusing on their own journey and not someone else’s. Sometimes it takes some time to get to where you’re going, thats because God is working out things in your life. And you may be asking God, why it’s taking so long. Well, maybe it’s taking long because you haven’t learnt what you’re supposed to have learnt. Maybe you’re not ready yet.
Focus on your own journey, on being a better person, learning your own life lessons (humility,patience, kindness)and you won’t have time to be jealous of anyone else. You’ve got so much going for you, it’s just that you haven’t tapped into it yet. Learn to accept who you are. Stop comparing yourself with others. There’s always going to be someone prettier than you, richer than you, more intelligent than you. Accept it and move on with your life. You are who you are for a reason. There can be only one ‘you’. Be the best ‘You’ that you can be.
Learn to be happy for other people’s success. The Bible says we should rejoice with those who rejoice. Develop an attitude of celebrating people’s achievements in life believing at the same time that your success is on its way, and won’t be delayed. In Jesus name! Your time will come. When you get to that place, when you become the next success story, you will want people to celebrate you instead of being jealous. Remember, what you sow, you’ll reap. So celebrate other people’s successes and get ready for your turn to be blessed!